Saturday, February 9, 2008
Saturday
Well, it's Saturday, but it doesn't feel that different from any other day. Mommyhood doesn't change. And in fact the kids have been extra challenging this morning--or maybe I'm just extra impatient. So I have been seeking advice. How do other mommies handle that feeling like, "I've been doing this 24 hours a day 7 days a week without a break FOREVER and there's no break in sight!!!" I just am starting to feel like running away to a distant land, changing my name, and having a little private mommy meltdown. Not really, but...sometimes...any thoughts or brilliant advice welcome. :)
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A lady I met at Dinner My Way, no, not Darla, who told me that her hubby used to work out of town for 3 days at a time. She knew that 2 days with her moppet kiddos was her breaking point. So somewhere before that breaking point she would make it a priority to get some "me time". If she couldn't find a sitter, then at least during nap time she would not clean, wash, or tidy up but instead spend a refreshing, yet short, time doing whatever helped her regroup.
So, my suggestion is to find your breaking point, them make it a PRIORITY to somehow get some "Tara time" in. Otherwise, who's gonna wanna hang out with you? Well, besides me. I really miss my Tara time. :-)
I don't really have any good advice, since I feel the same way.
I find my tolerance level varies depending on how much sleep I have had and what the children are up to. I am always being a mom or cleaning house so rarely get o take time for me.
But, we have to find time as moms to take care of ourselves.
Things I have found that make me feel more human and make me a better mom:
-Quality time with the hubby. Whether on an intimate level, or just chatting over coffee with no children...reconnecting with him makes me feel like a woman, not a housekeeper.
-Lunch with a friend. Only an hour mostly since we all have kids, but it's amazing what a salad, iced tea and a good friend can do for the soul.
-Hobbies. I sing in a few choirs. Love it...it is my ME time. Working out also helps me...a lot. I wish I could go mroe often. I would also love to learn how to sew thanks to your inspiration! It seems like it would be great stress relief.
-When I can't get away from the insanity, and I'm about to lose my mind, I can always put the babies in their cribs where they are safe and walk outside for some fresh air. I usually come in more focused and energized.
Having 3, well 2 grown children and one that should be (a 19 year old), you have to find some you time. You need to recharge your batteries, because the way you are going is not good for you physically or mentally. Life is hard enough with out the youngins, but you add them and, well you experience what you are going through. A baby sitter, a neighbor, a dear relative, some one must surely help you out in these stress times.
Beamer
I have been there lady. Over and over again. Sleep deprivation doesn't help me. I totally understand - do you have a regular "date night" with a girlfriend? And/or with your husband?
That usually helps "decompress" from the daily duties. Having "time away" for yourself would not make you a bad mommy, but a healthier one. Take it from me. I definitely know when I need it and I immediately call up a few other ladies I know and get a night out setup asap. Then by the next day I feel like I can breathe again and see my life with a new pair of eyes. It's hard to be home with children all day. I think that every stay at home mom goes through moments like these. But hang in there. One day they will be all grown up and we'll be looking at empty homes with nothing but perfectly made beds and clean mirrors, walls and floors. Then we'll be calling our kids and trying to fit ourselves into their busy schedules and giving them opportunities to "decompress" from their daily duties while we try to fill our lives with their children.
I'm with you girl. Wish you lived closer, I'd take you for coffee!
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